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The Church of the Ascension in the City of New York



Friday, September 15, 2006

 
From Stephen

Petty grievances

An hour left to work on Friday evening and I receive an angry phone call from a coworker in another department at the school I work at. The phone call goes from bad to worse, as we both bother not to listen to each other and proceed to argue about who was right, who was doing their job, and why the other should admit as such. A few hours later, I am still rehearsing the argument, licking my wounds, and wondering how to resolve it.

I think about going to his office next week to talk with him. But do I apologize, should I apologize when I felt I was in the right? Or does it bother me that someone is angry with me when I feel they shouldn't be? Or do I just want him to apologize? And then I think, maybe I just will tell him that I realize we had a bad exchange and that I know he had the best interest of the student at heart. Period.

What's that I hear fluttering around my ears?

Matthew 18:22

A difficult passage or just something to let us know Jesus could multiply?

The Episcopal priest and writer, Garrett Keizer, has described Jesus as "the wrath of God," a phrase I have always thought provocative because it just might be true. And, if it is true, it means we are given the grace of forgiveness that we do not deserve but couldn't live without.




Comments:

I have found that as I get older, I'm less likely to feel invested in my views than I used to be. Not that I have fewer opinions, but I really like the philosophy of Paul Saffo (technology/business futurist), who says he wants to work with people who have "strong opinions, lightly held." Meaning that they can argue passionately for something, but can also easily accept it when their idea isn't going to prevail.

And, also as I've gotten older, I've discovered that jumping into the cold water of an apology is the worst part, and that the minute you've done it, it's almost always far better than you dread.

all of which only means that more and more, I find myself more willing to apologize, even in instances I might have once tried to assert the rightness of my position or actions. And once I got used to the feeling of being willing to say "I'm sorry" and mean it, it's gotten easier and easier most of the time.

 



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